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Do you find that you are continually telling your children what to do?
Brush your teeth, put your plate away, make your bed, don't forget your
hat, put on your shoes…sometimes the list feels endless.
I don't know what it is about putting on shoes but I used to have battles with both my children to put their shoes on. I remember one time screaming at Jake to put his shoes on because I had told him, maybe ten times to do it, and he hadn't. He was playing or getting distracted or pretending he didn't know how. Then I lost it, he burst into tears and his shoes still weren't on. I'm sure the neighbours must have thought I was balmy yelling about shoes! Before I became a mother I would never thought that I could end up screaming about something so trivial.
After I thought about what had happened and I was shocked that I had exploded over such a simple thing but as any parent knows it's the simple things that trip you up. The positive out of all of that was that I knew there had to be a better way.
I started off by asking Jake to put his shoes on and then just expecting him to do it. I refused to repeatedly tell him what to do. That helped but it wasn't quite enough. Then I started asking him what he needed to do to get ready and after a short period of time, bingo! He got that going out meant shoes on. Sure there was the odd grumble but nothing like before.
If you're tired of being your child's personal alarm then try asking them questions instead. Questions like 'what do you need to do to get ready?' if you're going out somewhere. Or 'what do you do after you've finished your dinner?' when they get up and walk away from the dinner table with their plate and glass sitting where they left them. Or 'do you have everything you need?' when they are about to begin their homework or go outside and play ball
I don't know what it is about putting on shoes but I used to have battles with both my children to put their shoes on. I remember one time screaming at Jake to put his shoes on because I had told him, maybe ten times to do it, and he hadn't. He was playing or getting distracted or pretending he didn't know how. Then I lost it, he burst into tears and his shoes still weren't on. I'm sure the neighbours must have thought I was balmy yelling about shoes! Before I became a mother I would never thought that I could end up screaming about something so trivial.
After I thought about what had happened and I was shocked that I had exploded over such a simple thing but as any parent knows it's the simple things that trip you up. The positive out of all of that was that I knew there had to be a better way.
I started off by asking Jake to put his shoes on and then just expecting him to do it. I refused to repeatedly tell him what to do. That helped but it wasn't quite enough. Then I started asking him what he needed to do to get ready and after a short period of time, bingo! He got that going out meant shoes on. Sure there was the odd grumble but nothing like before.
If you're tired of being your child's personal alarm then try asking them questions instead. Questions like 'what do you need to do to get ready?' if you're going out somewhere. Or 'what do you do after you've finished your dinner?' when they get up and walk away from the dinner table with their plate and glass sitting where they left them. Or 'do you have everything you need?' when they are about to begin their homework or go outside and play ball
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